Have you lost your temper lately? Is your blood pressure always on the rise? Experiencing anger is a normal and healthy emotion. However, if you have exceeded the boundary of anger and everything just seems so out of control, here are the top 10 tips that can help control your temper:
10. You should know when to seek help
Sometimes, when we are overruled by our anger, things may seem to get out of hand. If you noticed that you immediately have a hot temper on things, it is best if you seek a specialist on that matter. You can also opt to participate in anger management therapies, which could really help a lot.
9. Practice relaxation skills
Think of the activities that you enjoy doing and practice those things when you are feeling ill tempered. Some people get to calm their nerves when they read their favorite books, eat their comfort foods, or just by listening to his or her favorite music. Yoga is also one way to help you relax.
8. Use humor to release tension
Humor yourself; nothing beats a good laugh when your temperature is rising.
7. Don’t hold a grudge
Holding a grudge to somebody else will not do you any good. Yes, it is always hard to forget but you can always forgive someone despite the bad experience you had with that person. Remember to live, forgive, forget, and move on with your life.
6. Stick with ‘I’ statements
Anger is unavoidable. Everyone has experienced this feeling every time. Respect is the key to get over the anger you feel and with that you should learn to practice it every day.
5. Identify possible solutions to a problem
Have you been in that situation wherein you get angry with someone and yet you continue on entertaining negative thoughts on that person? Isn’t it right that as you think of those negative thoughts the anger you felt just grew even more? To avoid this situation to happen again, it is best that you think of a possible solution to that problem before it’s too late and people have been hurt.
4. Think before you speak
It is important that before you lose your temper, you should always think of the words you will say before they come out of your mouth. Remember, you cannot take back the pain you have caused because of the hurtful things you have said to someone. That person can forget the exact words you have said but the pain you have brought cannot be forgotten easily.
3. Get some exercise
Getting into the groove before you are about to explode is helpful because it provides an outlet for your emotion. So, when you feel that you are about to erupt, you can always go for a brisk walk or indulge in any activity that can stimulate your brain chemicals to alter your mood.
2. Once you’re calm, express your anger
It is best to clear things out when you are not on the verge of exploding. You can discuss things clearly without hurting anyone and think of possible solutions to the problem when you are in your right state of mind.
1. Take a timeout
Before you make any violent reaction, it is best if you take a deep breath first and wait until your temper has subsided before you speak or do anything that is beyond your control in the situation you are in.